Dear Senserely Yours,
I just watched the movie “Dead Poets Society” and I realized that I
need to carpe dieam! I need to seize the day and make the most out of my life,
especially since I’m a graduating senior from high school. I realized that life
is short and we need to do what we can while we still have the time here on
Earth. But I don’t know how to do that. My grades aren’t that good. I don’t
feel confident about myself. I have no idea what I will do for college, if I
made the right decision in my course. I always think that I’m not good enough.
I haven’t been spending as much time with my friends as I would want to. And my
weight has been increasing greatly recently because I haven’t been exercising
recently. How will I seize the day if I feel so bad about myself? L
Senserely yours,
Mr. Useless
Dear Mr. Useless,
If you’re feeling that down and low, then this
song may cheer you up and dare you to move :>
I think we’ve all come to that point in our
lives when we felt like we weren’t worth a lot, like we were useless and
worthless. And it’s amazing that you have found the strength within yourself to
make that change. But like with most of the things in our lives, to change
something that complex within yourself wouldn’t mean that you just have to
improve on the way you think, the way you act, but your whole self. You would
have to work on your own BASIC ID, or your behaviors or actions, affect or
emotions, sensations, imagery or ideas, cognition or thoughts, your
interpersonal relationships or how you deal with others, and the physical
aspects of your life, which would include drugs, health and biology. We all
have complex personalities, and we should improve on each of these facets to
truly make change within ourselves.
It’s just like with tasting food. To truly
experience flavour, you not only need your tongue, but your nose and your
breathing as well. This is a way of perceiving which in Psychology, we have
called multimodal perception.
And following that principle, Professor Arnold
A. Lazarus proposed a kind of therapy that would address all of these facets of
our personality. He dubbed it Multimodal Therapy (MMT). Following the principle
of multimodal perception, he believes that working on all aspects of the self
will truly bring the change that we need for ourselves. Change will only come
if we are able to improve on not just one, but all the different aspects of
ourselves and our personality. To be able to apply these principles on your own
life, you can simply ask these questions to yourself:
Behavior:
What specific action do you want to do more of or less of?
Affect:
What emotion would you like to increase or decrease?
Sensation:
What sensation would you like to have more often or experience less
frequently?
Imagery:
What mental picture would you like “see” more often or less often in your
“mind’s eye.”?
Cognition:
What specific thought would you like to increase or decrease; start or
stop?
Interpersonal relationships: What specific social change would you like to
make?
Drugs/Health/ Biology: What specific change in a health habit or
physical issue would you like to make?
(taken from http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/think-well/201402/seven-ways-become-better-you)
Change isn’t easy, but it may be what we need
for us to become the person that we want to be. You can ask for help from
professionals, or even from your friends and family, to be able to make the
change for yourself. So what are you waiting for? Your change is about to come
to your life. Carpe diem!
Senserely yours,
I Say Hontiveros
Source : Lazarus, C.N. (2014). Seven ways to become a better you. Psychology Today. Retrieved from : http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/think-well/201402/seven-ways-become-better-you
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